The fear is now gone to be oddly & surprisingly replaced by disapointment.

[digitalwanderer]

In addition to all the other fun last week, I was going thru a rather major pregnancy fear at home. Me and my wife were convinced that despite it being impossible that somehow we'd managed to make another baby. :rolleyes: (It CAN'T happen, we tied the tubes! :eek: )

Long/short, we found out it was a false alarm last night. Surprisingly, I was disapointed. :(

I have no clue why. My wife does NOT want to go thru pregnancy again and I wouldn't ask her to, but we wouldn't have "chose" otherwise if it was the case. I tend to play the hand I'm dealt in life, if we were meant to have another child I was ready.

I think that's it, I was ready. I'd been panicking all week trying to figure out how we'd do it and if I was ready for another couple of years changing diapers, not to mention looking for a new house since we're a bedroom shy in this one...and me and Chrissy both agreed that we were actually ready and would be able to handle it. I'd gotten to the point of "acceptance". :rolleyes:

And for not, for it shall not be and never was.

My wife is still dancing a jig about the negative result and I can't say I blame her, and if I examine my own feelings on it and get bluntly honest with myself I guess I'm a bit happy it's negative too. I've just gotten to the point when both my kids are in school full-time and I finally got a bit of time to breath/clean-me-house/start planning for what I'm gonna do in the future and the idea of going back to baby duties just seems like a step backward to me right now.

But I'm still a touch disapointed and I blame me kids. I got two truly great kids in every sense of the word, and I kind of figured another kid like that wouldn't be such a bad thing for this world....but it's probably just as well this way.

Sorry for the non-technical rant, just had to get that off me chest. ;)

[druga runda]

heh...

that is never easy... and I am sure you are dissapointed... the whole point is that having another one wouldn't be THAT bad... and since you got to the the point of accepting the "kid" with all it was going to bring, I am sure youare dissapointed... it's not like you never had kids and you don't know what you are missing... it's must be fun to have some new learning machine around you with all the mess and love they bring :) :D

I have one baby and it would be a real shock if we got another one any time soon, but as well as a shock it is actually great... so doh.. a double edged sword... best to chill out and let it go... and wait for the grandchildred :eek:

And while we are at it... even though I have only one I am not planning on nex one for at least next 10 years :D Maybe when I get bored from the free time I hope I will get one day...

Good that your wife is happy, and you go on and enjoy all that free time that I will be waiting for at least 5 years... btw I envy you - at home with the kids and the wife is working = HEAVEN

(grass is always greener on the other side, but in your case I think IT IS GREENER for real)

[digitalwanderer]

"The grass is always greener...", yup...there really are a lot of days where I sincerly miss working. :rolleyes:

But all in all I think I agree with you, the way our family is set-up is pretty much a win-win for all involved. My wife is much happier working than staying at home with the kids, and I'm a pretty decent Dad and me hobbies/household repairs fill the "free" time I occasionally come across. :)

(BTW-My wife has a 34 hour workweek, so she doesn't hate her job as much as most. ;) )

[jAkUp]

i know my gf reads these forums every once and a while.. and i apologize if i say anything thats not appropriate... but...

i have to say i am very scared also... we are going through the same alarm right now. im scared because i dont know what im gonna do if it turns out she is pregnant... i am 19 years old, she being 17, still living at home. i have a pretty good job. but still.

i just hope its a false alarm also.
everyone pray for me!!!

and for those who wonder... yes i did :condom:

[druga runda]

Originally posted by digitalwanderer
"The grass is always greener...", yup...there really are a lot of days where I sincerly miss working. :rolleyes:

But all in all I think I agree with you, the way our family is set-up is pretty much a win-win for all involved. My wife is much happier working than staying at home with the kids, and I'm a pretty decent Dad and me hobbies/household repairs fill the "free" time I occasionally come across. :)

(BTW-My wife has a 34 hour workweek, so she doesn't hate her job as much as most. ;) )

heh good for her... my wife is still studying.. and working part-time too, but once she is finished (next year) and gets a decent job, I hope that eventually I will be getting a year or two off at home to enjoy the supposedly "free" time or at least work part-time only :D

Unless some really good job comes along which is hard to believe as I finished accounting... but you never know

here is for hope :alc:

and Jakup don't worry - :condom: serves fine... women can get the "pregnancy paranoia" fairly often as the body does not always act regularly for reasons other than pregnancy ;)

[nVidi0t]

Dig, You seem happy enough with the kids you have at the moment and you seem like a great father.

What's wrong with that man? :)

jakup, Dont get her pregnant at 17 man, bad idea!

[digitalwanderer]

Originally posted by nVidi0t
Dig, You seem happy enough with the kids you have at the moment and you seem like a great father.

What's wrong with that man? :)

Nothing at all and I'm prouder than hell of it, I was just sort of weirded out at how easily and happily I took the news...I kind of miss the baby phase at times, it was some memories that I'll treasure forever. (Sheesh, now I DO sound like a Mom! :lol: )

I'm not disapointed anymore, I'm pretty relieved. I was sort of gonna give myself a couple of months off anyways to actually start generating some new content for EB and the idea of NOT having a bit of free time didn't look very appealing to me.

Jakup: I'll put ya in my prayers and hope it's a false alarm, 17 & 19 is too young! I had enough trouble dealing with it at 31!

[nVidi0t]

Originally posted by digitalwanderer
Nothing at all and I'm prouder than hell of it, I was just sort of weirded out at how easily and happily I took the news...I kind of miss the baby phase at times, it was some memories that I'll treasure forever. (Sheesh, now I DO sound like a Mom! :lol: )

I'm not disapointed anymore, I'm pretty relieved. I was sort of gonna give myself a couple of months off anyways to actually start generating some new content for EB and the idea of NOT having a bit of free time didn't look very appealing to me.

Jakup: I'll put ya in my prayers and hope it's a false alarm, 17 & 19 is too young! I had enough trouble dealing with it at 31!

Cigar --->

[digitalwanderer]

Originally posted by nVidi0t
Cigar --->
Cigarette actually, but please don't tell my wife I'm sneaking 'em. ;)

[druga runda]

content for EB -

here is an idea - start reviewing the review sites and give them ratings according to the reviews they have done -

that will boost your viewer numbers seriously :D

[digitalwanderer]

Originally posted by druga runda
content for EB -

here is an idea - start reviewing the review sites and give them ratings according to the reviews they have done -

that will boost your viewer numbers seriously :D
We don't do it by sites, but we already have Hanners running "The Bastard's ROAR" (http://www.elitebastards.com/roar.php), or "review of a review" where he rates 'em on an individual basis and points out strengths/weaknesses/technical errors. It's been working out well since most of the reviewed reviews authors come around to discuss it and we get some cool dialogues going. :)

I'm just got a package in the mail that is gonna consist of me first review, I gotta go geek out a while! :D