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Yeah guys... in 4 months and 3 days, I will be embarking on that greatest of adventures known as marriage. I'm not nervous about whether or not i've made the right decision, I've already had the "OMG what am I doing?" speech with myself.
Anyway, with 4 months left, what do you guys suggest doing with myself? The Bachelor LAN part is all but planned at this point, and I've already got the other wedding week activities set.
Let me hear it, guys... How should I spend the last bastion of bachelorhood?
Hey ya know that's a good idea, seeing as how I've only got a little over 4 months left myself... creepy o.O
I know how yer feelin about it all, heh.
Hrm....
If I could just find a way to relax in between trying to keep my fiance sane.. Between work (60 hours a week - hey, I'm a teacher!), Envy News (20 hours a week), Fraternity (regional officer), Church, and the wedding, I'm running out of sanity. Rachel and I are going out on our first date tonight in a LONG time, actually taking her to dinner someplace nice... and leaving the wedding planning stuff at home.
it's the "me' time I need to figure out how to use it. I do have it, I just don't know what to do to make the best of it.
intercede007
01-28-03, 01:00 PM
Yeah man, sounds like you just need to let go for a few days.
I don't have nearly as much on my plate as you do, but I can totally understand. Fortunatly, my fiancee has arranged weddings for her mom, friends, etc, so I have decided to leave it all up to her ;)
Good luck man...it won't be nearly as bad when its all said and done with. And if you're already settled down in a home/apartment, that makes it even easier.
Congrats man!!!!!
digitalwanderer
01-28-03, 01:07 PM
Originally posted by AshG
Let me hear it, guys... How should I spend the last bastion of bachelorhood?
By being faithful to your fiancee!
Honest, I had a friend who slept with someone the night before he got married because, "it was his last chance at being a bachelor". Well, word got back to his wife on it at the reception and put a decidely weird spin on the rest of the evening. Me friend spent three years married trying to make up for that indiscretion in hell, and ended up getting dumped and taken for all he was worth.
If you've decided to take the plunge, (and I personally can not recomend it enough, married life is WAY better than single life IMHO...and I say that after 7-1/2 years with me wife. :) ), realize that you've already made your commitment and your bachelor days are behind you.
Maybe not what ya wanted to hear, but it really is me best advice. :)
Whew! Congrats, y'all! I'm more than halfway through my sixth year of marriage, so that time of my life is obscured by the mists of time.
So what to do? What doesn't your bride-to-be like to do? For me it was video/computer games (except, for whatever reason, "Mortal Kombat") and watching "guy" movies (usually ones with lots of explosions and violence). In fact, that's still what I do when I'm on my own. Margo's out of town? Play Medieval: Total War until my eyes fall out! Practicing the flute? Play a mission of Ghost Recon! Watching "Trading Space"? Pop in "Braveheart" or "Black Hawk Down" or "Sanjuro"! If there's stuff that you both like to do, always do it together...it's great for strengthening the relationship! For the rest, well, you get it when you can. :)
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And ditto on what Digitalwanderer wrote!
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Cheers,
JND
intercede007
01-28-03, 01:40 PM
Originally posted by digitalwanderer
By being faithful to your fiancee!
Honest, I had a friend who slept with someone the night before he got married because, "it was his last chance at being a bachelor". Well, word got back to his wife on it at the reception and put a decidely weird spin on the rest of the evening. Me friend spent three years married trying to make up for that indiscretion in hell, and ended up getting dumped and taken for all he was worth.
If you've decided to take the plunge, (and I personally can not recomend it enough, married life is WAY better than single life IMHO...and I say that after 7-1/2 years with me wife. :) ), realize that you've already made your commitment and your bachelor days are behind you.
Maybe not what ya wanted to hear, but it really is me best advice. :)
LOL!!!!!!!! Dude, I totally think he meant as in, hanging out with the guys, getting away with his fiancee for the weekend, etc. I think Ash is smart enough to NOT do anything like that.
beerglass
01-28-03, 02:14 PM
HAHAHA Geek wedding.... didn't know that geeks getting married on a human being instead of their computer :D
Nephilim
01-28-03, 03:09 PM
Originally posted by AshG
:D
Yeah guys... in 4 months and 3 days, I will be embarking on that greatest of adventures known as marriage. I'm not nervous about whether or not i've made the right decision, I've already had the "OMG what am I doing?" speech with myself.
Anyway, with 4 months left, what do you guys suggest doing with myself? The Bachelor LAN part is all but planned at this point, and I've already got the other wedding week activities set.
Let me hear it, guys... How should I spend the last bastion of bachelorhood?
Congrats man, I am in the same boat myself (did someone say ship of fools? ;) ). My wedding isn't for a while though so I have time to freak out have about 3 "OMG what am I doing?" speeches with myself. :)
The bachelor LAN party sounds like fun, although while playing (if you drink) you HAVE to get tanked! :D
nin_fragile14
01-28-03, 04:27 PM
Congrats man! :thumbsup:
The Baron
01-28-03, 05:18 PM
Envy News (20 hours a week)
Send me stuff, and it's SUDDENLY 10 hours a week. And I don't think I would complain about the sudden influx of Good Stuff either. :p
Congrats, Ash. :thumbsup:
Now, to find a wedding present that you don't already have.... ;)
Congrats Ash. :)
Oh and good luck to ya. :D
Shinri Hikari
01-28-03, 08:37 PM
Try to look at it from the other side with a strong positive perspective, it's harder to screw up if you think positive.:cool: Oh, and ask not what she can do for you, ask what you can do for her!:D
stncttr908
01-28-03, 09:24 PM
**** man I thought you were dying when I read the subject. :wtf:
Buy a PC upgrade now before its too late.
Originally posted by DaveW
Buy a PC upgrade now before its too late.
Dude, I'm jonesing for a Barton so bad it's not even funny... I have a feeling upgrades are going to become few and far between from now on.
StealthHawk
01-28-03, 09:53 PM
Originally posted by stncttr908
**** man I thought you were dying when I read the subject. :wtf:
it's so true in some ways...
anyway, congrats Ash :afro2:
saturnotaku
01-28-03, 10:18 PM
Originally posted by stncttr908
**** man I thought you were dying when I read the subject.
LMAO so did I. I said to myself, "WTF (literally W-T-F :p)?" Then I realized that I was kind of the one who reminded our friend here that his wedding day is fast approaching. Silly me. :angel:
But what to do with free time? ... You have to spend it doing something you love, but that's totally unrelated to anything in your professional life. If you like reading, pick up a book you haven't read in years or find something new.
I sometimes like to go for drives just to see where the road might take me and I'll discover someplace new and cool. But I wouldn't share it with anyone else - it would be yours and only yours for as long as you want it to be.
Other than that I don't know what to tell you. Just make sure "Relationship Ash" doesn't come into contact with "Independent Ash" because an Ash divided against itself, cannot stand! :D
Originally posted by saturnotaku
I said to myself, "WTF (literally W-T-F :p)?"
Heh, I actually DO say that - it comes out as wah-du-fuh, really quickly like wudufuh. I avoid saying that at school or around Rachel. =)
Seeing as how I'm not living with my fiance (that's just not our bag - we're actually "waiting for marriage" on everything), time to myself isn't an issue. And, even when she's over here, we do some things separately. But I really love the things we do together. We played Rummy for 4 hours one night. We go on movie sprees. We even work together at her antique shop occasionally... I love it =)
The crazy thing is - what do I do for fun? I read. Incessantly. Horribly. When I'm not busy trying to find ways to clean up the apartment without actually having to work, then I've got a book in my hand. It soothes the spirit and calms the mind. And, lately, that's what I've been needing.
Maybe I should give up online for a while. Do my reviews, exchange pleasantries while it's uploading, and hop offline and work on the next one. I cause trouble everywhere I go, make things worse trying to fix it, and then try to clean up the aftermath. Not a good example for the upcoming marriage. if I just keep my mouth shut, smile and nod.... Best thing I ever learned, heh.
BTW - as I mentioned, Bachelor LAN party. Need game recommendations and some "prize" ideas.... ;)
intercede007
01-29-03, 01:43 AM
Dude, I don't think there would be a person on the planet who would blame you for cutting back on the net for a few months. And if they do, they will apologize after they get engaged.
20 hours a week working on envy? Thats 4 hours a day during the work week. Thats alot of time. Spend it with your girl. Spend it with a book. Spend it with a beer and the boys. Anything you like.
No one would blame you, and you'd be that much better for it when you came back.
saturnotaku
01-29-03, 08:39 AM
Originally posted by AshG
I cause trouble everywhere I go, make things worse trying to fix it, and then try to clean up the aftermath. Not a good example for the upcoming marriage. if I just keep my mouth shut, smile and nod.... Best thing I ever learned, heh.
BTW - as I mentioned, Bachelor LAN party. Need game recommendations and some "prize" ideas....
Well, don't completely go away. You're blaming yourself for things when you shouldn't when you say you cause trouble everywhere you go. It's not like that at all.
Anyway, you'll have to fill me in on the details of exactly when you're gonna be doing said bachelor LAN party. I need to know so I can budget my vacation time from work accordingly. I want to make sure I can do everything I want during my first odyssey to the southeast USA. :D
Originally posted by intercede007
20 hours a week working on envy? Thats 4 hours a day during the work week. Thats alot of time. Spend it with your girl. Spend it with a book. Spend it with a beer and the boys. Anything you like.
Actually, thanks to the girl's work schedule, I end up working on site stuff while she's at work or right after she leaves at night. So, I'm not sacrificing time with her for the site. Plus, believe it or not, benching the flange out of hard drives and jumping up and down on crushproof, waterproof tech containers is actually rather relaxing. =)
As for "time with the boys", that's not really possible anymore. I'm not in charge of the Fraternity guys, and that drives a nice little wedge into things. I'm also 40 miles from them and driving that way once a week isn't too peachy. I've not met anyone my age here yet, and that's sad after a year and a half. It's a small "Chrisitan college" town, so all the guys are either way too old to hang out with, or they're young brainwashed religion freaks.
About the Bachelor LAN party - it's either going to be Thursday night or Friday night after the rehearsal dinner. I'm working on getting a place to have it with lots of power connectors and cabling room. So far, I've been told that UT2k3 and BF1947 had better be on the list, and as of now they are! Hrm... wonder if I could get this sponsored, heh heh - BAWLS, anyone?
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