Ok so install is now going off like it should. Apparently it was the me loading the driver that was the problem.
I have always done it in the past with vista and server 08, my mobo manuals tell you to do this, the x58 even had the diagrams. Even just last week I built a new server for the house, and loaded the adaptec inf just like I always have the intel one and everything worked fine. I feel like such an ass right now.
Hopefully this page will land high on google so others can be saved this misery.
I am off to spend about 15 minutes on the speed bag while its installing, that should make me feel better.Thanks for the help guys.