Re: GTX 460 and VDPAU problems.
I solved it myself... After some more digging in the documentation I realised that the GTX460 isn't really supported by the 195.36.31 driver.
I installed the driver from Debian Experimental (256.53) and now it's working.
mplayer is running with a CPU-usage of only 4-9%.
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