After so much troubles, and many tears shed. I was just about to try reinstalling windows. I thought since it says "I have disk" in the windows button, maybe I can try pointing it to the drivers on the CD that came with the card. The mother****ing thing finally works and is recognized!
Thank you so very much everybody. Internet high five! I really appreciate it <3
Funny thing now, I am not sure if I should update the drivers (somehow >_<) or just leave them lol. I think I will just leave it as is untill BF3 or some games or programs start having issues, since the drivers from the cd are obvisouly beyond ancient.