i apparently fixed this issue myself. but i had to update the driver from the device manager and manually point it to the nvidia display folder on my drive. then with only what seems to be the driver installed, i can change to 1600 x 900 resolution but only after i change my hardware video acceleration to none and disable write combining. wtf?
and also i think my video card is ****, 128mb and in need of upgrade. but i would think you tube and other video sites would look halfway decent on this video card?