So I moved back home . . .

[six_storm]

I'm sure none of you guys noticed but I haven't been on the forums that much in the past week. I actually moved back home from an apartment near campus, it's going to save me so much money. I'm trying to save up money for my future marriage next year lol and from what I hear, I'd better start saving up now! I'm actually having a huge yard sale Friday and Saturday morning to help pay off the engagement ring; set a goal for $1K out of the stuff. The money is also paying for a new DVD drive and Bioshock lol (shh, nobody is supposed to know that )

Anywho, I just wanted to point out the joys of living with the folks for a little bit. The biggest one is saving money but also, they have cable TV. I went down to the local Comcast office and grabbed an HD box for $7/month and O . . . M . . . G . . . I love it!!! I only get a few HD channels but it's definitely worth it.

I've got Discovery HD, MojoHD, AE-HD, TNT-HD, ESPN 1 and 2 HD, plus all the local channels in HD. I've been glued to the TV since yesterday morning. Mojo has some really cool shows, like London Live and a few IMAX movies here and there.

Just thought I would share . . .

[nVJoe]

Toughen up and get back out there. If you can't afford to get married then why would a woman want to marry you?

If I were you parents I wouldn't let you back in. If I did I would charge you for every single thing you did. $1.50 per square and $2.00 to flush, just as an example.

Mooch

I'm just sharing too.

[Namrok]

Uh... guy... not to rain on your parade or anything, but if you are so strapped for cash that you are moving in with your parents, whats the rush to get married?

[six_storm]

Originally Posted by Namrok

Uh... guy... not to rain on your parade or anything, but if you are so strapped for cash that you are moving in with your parents, whats the rush to get married?

There's no rush. I still have a little over 1 year and 2 months to get married. I'm working on my resume right now and am trying to get it out there for a job. I've also got a few more semesters of college left too.

nvJoe - I'm getting married, don't have to worry about the chicks anymore!

[Namrok]

Originally Posted by six_storm

nvJoe - I'm getting married, don't have to worry about the chicks anymore!

Yeah... don't be so sure about that...

Edit: Ok, that might have been rude. I just see

-Unemployed
-Poor
-Student
-Lives at home
-Engaged

And I see a disaster waiting to happen. But really, best of luck.

[nVJoe]

Originally Posted by six_storm

There's no rush. I still have a little over 1 year and 2 months to get married. I'm working on my resume right now and am trying to get it out there for a job. I've also got a few more semesters of college left too.

nvJoe - I'm getting married, don't have to worry about the chicks anymore!

I know I sound like a jerk six but I am actually just showing a bit of tough love.

I know you won't listen but I am going to be honest. Don't get married yet. You are not ready.
Namrok is speaking the truth. A great number of marriages end over disputes over money.

[Namrok]

Originally Posted by nVJoe

I know I sound like a jerk six but I am actually just showing a bit of tough love.

I know you won't listen but I am going to be honest. Don't get married yet. You are not ready.

Is it just me, or do a lot of young people, who are adults by age alone, and not self sufficiency, career, or success, just jump at getting married? It's like they know they aren't adults yet, not in any meaningful sense of it at least, and go "If adults get married, and I get married, that makes me an adult!"

Originally Posted by nVJoe

Namrok is speaking the truth. A great number of marriages end over disputes over money.

Yeah, I'm watching that happen to a friend of mine right now. Among other issues.

[Tygerwoody]

Originally Posted by nVJoe

Toughen up and get back out there. If you can't afford to get married then why would a woman want to marry you?

If I were you parents I wouldn't let you back in. If I did I would charge you for every single thing you did. $1.50 per square and $2.00 to flush, just as an example.

Mooch

qft

What are you going to do when **** really does hit the fan? Are you going to move in with your wife's family next? While its cool and all to save money, moving back in with my family would hurt my pride way too much. Especially after just getting engaged. Anything short of my house catching on fire, losing my job, and all my cars blowing up in the same day, then there no way in hell I'd move back in with my family for an extended period of time.

To each his own. So, uh... grats I guess

[nVJoe]

Originally Posted by Namrok

Is it just me, or do a lot of young people, who are adults by age alone, and not self sufficiency, career, or success, just jump at getting married? It's like they know they aren't adults yet, not in any meaningful sense of it at least, and go "If adults get married, and I get married, that makes me an adult!"



Yeah, I'm watching that happen to a friend of mine right now. Among other issues.

I am not worried that he doesn't have a career and other such issues he has going on. I am concerned that no woman in their right mind should marry a man who has to move back home to save money for a short term. Six just isn't ready to get married based on his situation. I am sure they are in love and are wonderful people, who just happen to not be ready for marriage.

All we are saying Six is to just really think it over. Also go to your dad and really confide in him.
Maybe you can try this. Go to HER dad and tell him your position and what your plans are. Then see his reaction. His will be the most honest.

[evilghost]

Guys, leave him alone, he's a Linux user, would you expect us not to live at home.

Six you're going to get torn apart in this thread man. I have to say I agree with all these folks here though. While financially it may make sense to you, if you're getting married you need to be a man, and a man doesn't live at home. You need to either fail or succeed on your own accord without a safety-net provided by your parents.

I wouldn't tap my father's resources unless I was literally one step away from living on the street with my family and only then would I admit my failure as both a husband, father, and man and leech my father's resources.

[Tygerwoody]

There is a reason why people say "Career First, Marriage Second". Its not to be mean. Its not to have a bunch of money hungry men who car only about their careers over their family.

You NEED a good career to provide for your wife and kids with what they will need. You will want to give them a good life they deserve. Being the man of the household, that is your job. If you think marriage is only about "love" then you are sadly mistaken and will have a tough time. Its a huge responsibility and moving back in with "the folks" proves you aren't ready for that responsibility just yet.

[evilghost]

What Tygerwoody said, get your things straight, then get married. This includes stable job, stable income, good credit report, and ability to provide for your family.

Apartment is fine and depending on the cost of living may be your only option, however, when you're married be prepared to pick out a house together.